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Is Ellen DeGeneres Racist or Racially Insensitive? Who Gets to Decide?

Is Ellen DeGeneres Racist or Racially Insensitive? Who Gets to Decide?


Is Ellen DeGeneres a racist? In my opinion, No. Was the meme with Ellen photo shopped on the back of Olympic Gold medalist, Usain Bolt “racially insensitive”? Well, that’s the million dollar question.

Here’s the thing, you cannot take away the historical context of black people. We (black and white people) all have unique perspectives, the lens from which we see the world. This explains why some are offended by the “meme” and some are not. These perspectives come from explicit and implicit biases, which are taught and deep rooted in us from life experiences, cultural experiences and so on.

Dictating how people should feel or dismissing their cultural context only compounds the problems we have across racial lines.

What’s lost in all of this is the ability to empathize with the perspective of another person and recognize their perspective as their truth. And it’s not up for debate or judgment. It’s about feeling with other people and connecting from a place of how you would feel if this happened to you or your ancestors?

This requires us to dig deep, and connect with parts of ourselves to fuel the connection with other people not the divide. If we continue to place our lens on other peoples perspectives to make our truth their truth we can never heal the hurt. We have to listen for what was missed, acknowledge our blind spots, and confront the auto-bias that lives within all of us.

So, who gets to decide? I’m not sure who gets to decide, but with “racial insensitivity” albeit intentional or not the consequences hurt the same.

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Parallel-preneur is the new SEXY!

Parallel-preneur is the new SEXY!


Working a 9-5 and being an entrepreneur (definition of parallel-preneur) is more than dressing the part or flashing around two different business cards. When you chase your passion and purpose while holding down a day job the pursuit of success can be difficult but not impossible. Should you quit your day job? The answer to that question varies from one person to another, but before you leave your biggest investor in your business, let’s get your house in order.  Here are 7 ways to launch your business and keep it sexy.

  1. Slow and Steady

Launching a new business takes time. Trying to do too much too soon will create burnout, frustration and can further delay your dreams. Start out slow and steady by spending at least 1 hour on your business every day. If you are most productive in the morning commit to getting up one hour early to work on your business.  If evenings are when you’re most creative, skip that hour of television to create your own empire.   Effective multi-tasking is a myth, so focus on one task at a time. Develop a schedule, be consistent and stay the course.

  1. Stir Your Secret Sauce

The notion of “Build it and they will come” is one of the worst things you can do when launching a new business. Validate your business idea, do the research and know the industry you are jumping into.  Your secret sauce is the solution for someone, but you have to package and present it to your target how they need it, otherwise, you are wasting your time and money.  Use a survey platform to get feedback from your potential customer and test your business ideas to make them more appealing to your target audience.

Resource: Google Forms, SurveyMonkey

  1. Take a Trip That Won’t Break the Bank

It’s hard to hit a moving target or reach a destination when you have no idea where you’re going.  Think of your business goals like a roadmap to get you there.  Visualize where you would like your business to be in the next 3, 6, 9 and 12 months then create daily, weekly, and monthly goals and watch your business soar.  Business, planning, to-do list, scheduling time to solely work on product development, launch strategy, writing word count and landing pages are the type of items/activities (to name a few) to place on your list of goals.  Establishing short- and long-term goals to grow your business will give you the big picture as you move forward.  

  1. Find Your Freelance Boo

As you juggle your day job and your dream you will understand how valuable your time is.  Be clear about doing only what you can do and outsource the rest.  You might have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince or princess, but the freelancing pool is endless. Be persistent and don’t give up.  You can hire a Virtual Assistant to help with administrative tasks, or a graphic designer to help with your flyers and social media banners.  You can’t do this alone.  For instance, some of you might be very creative and can design great event flyers, but from a CEO perspective you should not be creating your own flyers, book covers and visuals when you can outsource the task for $5 and up depending on the complexity of the design you need.  Engaging help from others will save you time, money and sanity.

Resources: Fiverr.com, Upwork.com, Freelancer.com,

  1. Show Me the Money.

One of the best things about your full-time job is it affords you income to invest in your dreams.  Instead of borrowing money from banks and relatives you can incrementally fund pieces of your business plan. For example, you can invest in product development, website development and marketing collateral while you’re still bringing home the bacon from your investor/day job. If quitting your job is an option for you  don’t put your business in the position of having to sustain your lifestyle and itself in its infancy stage.   Leave with a clearly defined exit strategy. Your number one priority every day is to invite someone to work with you to generate new money. While you’re still putting in work at your 9-5, you should also be networking at industry events and looking for additional opportunities to grow your business

  1. Shake a Tail Feather

By nature, many entrepreneurs are overachievers and get caught up chasing the next thing, then the next thing without celebrating their success along the way.  We are good at applauding others but we don’t applaudourselves for a job well done.  Being a parallel-preneur is not easy.Take a moment, breathe it all in, exhale and give yourself a hand clap…or two.  

  1. Love the Ones You’re With…Including You

One of the biggest challenges of launching a new business is figuring out how to create work/life integration.  Spend too much time working on the business and your health and relationships will be affected.  Spend too little time on your business and it becomes a hobby. The key is defining what balance looks like for you and your loved ones. Be flexible, set work hours, prioritize exercise, plan family vacations and make sure to carve out room for some mental recharging like meditation, yoga or not doing a damn thing.   

In the end, all things are not created equal.  Focus on the right stuff and keep it sexy!

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Sit Your A$$ in The Seat and Write!

Sit Your A$$ in The Seat and Write!

I don’t know about you but in my world of busy and with so many things out here vying for my attention it’s easy to get distracted. Actually, I get distracted a lot. My morning writing process consists of multiple timed intervals to keep me on task. But I must admit some mornings before I begin to write, I get caught up in my social media web and spiral into the abyss of Internet surfing all because I can’t resist an adorable video of a cute baby doing something. Next thing you know twenty minutes of valuable writing time has passed and I can’t even remember what started the avalanche of clicking in the first place. Here are some tips you can use to stay on task and be productive:

  1. Schedule your time – It’s difficult to tell a story you are not connected to and one of the biggest barriers writers face is not staying connected to their story. It may not be realistic to write daily, but I challenge you to schedule a consistent time to write for the next 30 days.
  2. Create optimal space – Make the space you use for writing ready for you to sit your A$$ in the seat and write. My computer is logged on in sleep mode. All I do is press the space bar and the login screen comes to life. No excuses.
  3. Use timed intervals – For me, it takes a few minutes to get into my writing groove, so 50 minutes works best. I set a timer (kitchen variety, iPad, cell phone, etc.) for 50 minutes, work on a specific task and when the timer goes off, I take a scheduled 10-minute break. If you are doing more than one timed interval don’t use your breaks for social media or emails. Stretch, go to the bathroom, drink some water, or meditate. Whatever you do, stay focused.Do not log on to the Internet or social media– When my computer is logged on to the Internet, I receive blinking notifications in the upper right corner of the screen. It’s like a subliminal wink calling me to come play. Don’t fall for it. I promise you your social media platforms and email messages will be right where you left them when you’re done.
  4. Plan for distractions – I keep a notepad close by and write things that pop into my head while working on my project to remember to do them later. This helps to keep my creative juices focused on my project vs. the laundry or what I need to pick up from the grocery store.

FYI, timed intervals are good for most types of projects and if 50 minutes is too long you can also do a 25/5 interval. I always say to my clients, “If you commit to writing one interval a day at the end of 90 days how many pages will you have?” MORE than you have now. Write the damn book!

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Will You Be Your Valentine?

Will You Be Your Valentine?

Valentines day is a holiday about L-O-V-E! Who said it had to be about loving someone else and not loving on you? Like hearts and flowers? Make this Valentine’s Day the beginning of something beautiful and do something within your own power to make you feel warm, tingly and appreciated. Here is the ultimate guide to becoming your own boo thang:

  1. Write yourself a love letter – The longest relationship that you will ever be in is the one with yourself. This should be your most intimate and honest love. Grab your journal or a blank sheet of paper and imagine yourself as a secret admirer and put some love on that blank page. Read it aloud and record it, then play it back to hear how much you love you.
  1. Mood – Nothing sets the mood like the smell of a new candle. Whether you creating the mood for a candlelit bubble bath or creating space to curl up and read a good book (I love essential oils!) with so many scents to chose from you can’t go wrong with some new flicker and glo!
  1. Flowers or Chocolate – Let’s get chocolate wasted! All girls need options and it doesn’t have to be one or the other…why not both? Send yourself some flowers (I buy myself flowers every week), pick up a little chocolate (white, milk, dark whatever you fancy) and grab a few almonds while you’re at it.
  1. The 3 P’s (Panties, Perfume, Pedicure) – I don’t care in what order. Studies have found that attraction may literally be based on smell. If that’s the case what are you waiting for? Get yourself some new smell good. And nothing says I love me more than a pair of pretty panties and pretty toes. For the record, they do not have to be red…unless you want them to be.
  1. Massage – You can’t practice self-love without self-care. Who knew that massage was for more than just pampering? The kneading of the skin and muscles release good for you endorphins that make you say ahhhhhhhh.

Truth be told, you don’t need a holiday to love yourself, but it can be the beginning of some great monthly rituals. And one of the best thing about making your own heart sing is that when you love you first, its easier to show kindness and love to others. Go get your self-love ON!

How do you love on you? Share with us below.

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